Chapter 1: Understanding Delayed Life Syndrome

Many individuals express a feeling of merely existing rather than truly living, convinced that their “real life” will eventually commence.

They often find themselves waiting for:

• the perfect moment
• achieving fitness and health goals
• their children’s growth
• a career advancement
• a new living situation
• financial stability

Life becomes segmented into a lengthy “waiting phase,” a brief “achievement phase,” and a fleeting “reward phase” that constitutes “true” living. This imagined future becomes excessively valued, while current experiences seem trivial and unimportant.

The present state often includes:

• tendencies toward hoarding or saving
• self-consolation practices
• suppression of significant emotions (like a ban on joy)
• heightened interest in others’ lives
• undervaluation of personal achievements and capabilities

Section 1.1: The Types of Individuals Affected

Three main groups of people are prone to experiencing Delayed Life Syndrome:

#### Subsection 1.1.1: Goal-Oriented Individuals

These individuals, often referred to as goal fanatics, are dedicated to achieving their targets—be it career milestones, significant purchases, or relocating. They may sacrifice personal satisfaction for extended periods. Yet, upon achieving their objectives, they frequently find little joy in their success. For instance, after purchasing a home or securing a prestigious job, they may wonder, “What’s next?”

The solution lies in cultivating a grand, unattainable goal.

#### Subsection 1.1.2: Others-Focused Individuals

This group tends to prioritize others’ ambitions over their own, often avoiding responsibility for their personal lives. They may become overly invested in their partners or children. While some of these investments yield positive outcomes, others may lead to disappointment.

The key to overcoming this syndrome is to shift focus back onto oneself rather than solely on others.

#### Subsection 1.1.3: The Patient Waiters

The final group chooses to wait passively instead of actively shaping their lives. This often stems from a lack of personal resources, characterized by fear, insufficient support, and low self-esteem.

Taking small, proactive steps and celebrating minor victories can help. Embracing mistakes as part of the learning process and seeking supportive relationships are also crucial.

Section 1.2: Transitioning to the "Live" Mode

As a psychologist, I find it rewarding to witness individuals shift from a state of postponement to one of active engagement with life.

When people realize that there’s no immediate urgency to endure, overcome, or excel, their anxiety fades. They come to understand that:

• They are doing well in the present.
• Their current situation is sufficient.
• It’s okay to relax; the world won’t collapse.

They no longer need to wait until they achieve an ideal weight to enjoy a lovely dress or share a meal with friends. Investing in joyful experiences and memories becomes essential, regardless of past criticisms. These moments enrich our lives, providing inspiration and the energy to truly live.

Chapter 2: The Impact of Mental Health on Living Fully

The first video, "The Never-Ending TOMORROW," delves into the challenges of procrastination and the psychological barriers that prevent individuals from engaging in the present. It offers insights into breaking free from the cycle of deferred living.

Chapter 3: Mental Health Perspectives During Challenging Times

The second video, "DELAYED LIFE SYNDROME: MENTAL HEALTH OF UKRAINIANS DURING THE WAR," explores the psychological impact of the ongoing conflict on individuals' ability to engage with life fully. It sheds light on the importance of mental health support in turbulent times.