# Transforming from Workaholic to Balanced Life: My Journey
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Chapter 1: The Awakening
On a chilly Friday evening in autumn, I found myself working late, savoring a cup of my beloved Swiss tea, while the golden leaves danced outside my window. There’s a unique comfort I derive from working during off-hours, free from interruptions like instant messages and emails. Suddenly, my best friend’s text broke the silence. “Hey, I have an extra ticket to a concert tonight. Want to go?” Her excitement was infectious, knowing how much I adored this artist.
I hesitated, fingers poised over the keyboard. “I can’t, work is really hectic right now,” I replied, feeling a familiar wave of regret wash over me.
Her response was swift: “Yeah, you’ve been saying that for a decade.”
The weight of her words struck deeper than anticipated. Initially, irritation bubbled up — how could she speak to me like that? But as that feeling faded, I was left with the undeniable truth. Sometimes, true friends say what we need to hear rather than what we want to hear.
From my early days in competitive sports to consistently excelling academically, I have always been one to push my limits. I wore my overachieving nature as a badge of honor, believing my workaholism was simply a sign of my endless ambition. Yet, that simple text made me ponder: was my identity rooted more in escapism than in true ambition? Was I using work as a refuge rather than a joyful pursuit?
Section 1.1: The Unhealthy Drive
For me, work has always represented more than just a job; it’s been an anchor in a chaotic world. The long hours and unwavering commitment created a structured environment where I felt I could control outcomes, even when everything else felt unpredictable. I thrived on self-reliance.
Every checklist item I completed, every milestone I reached, reinforced this sense of control. Yet, beneath this illusion of power lay a fear — fear of vulnerability, unpredictability, and the ultimate loss of control. I came to realize that my deep-seated love for my job was a protective shield against these fears.
Section 1.2: Seeking Inner Clarity
Oprah once said, “You possess the power within you to carve your own path and discover joy along the way.” I understood that there was more beneath the surface. I needed to explore within, beyond the chaos of work and daily life, to truly comprehend the essence of my overachiever persona. Was my relentless drive genuinely fueled by ambition, or was it an unconscious defense against insecurities?
Thus began my commitment to introspection. Instead of relying solely on logic, I chose to embrace silence as my guide. During this quiet contemplation, repressed emotions, unacknowledged thoughts, and profound realizations began to emerge. This journey of silence became a therapeutic pathway, connecting my external accomplishments with the inner workings of my motivations and fears.
My exploration revealed that what I labeled as ambition was largely a reaction to societal pressures and ingrained insecurities. Rather than pursuing true aspirations, I was, in fact, evading vulnerability and the anxiety of losing control.
Chapter 2: Embracing Vulnerability
Accepting vulnerability didn’t mean abandoning my responsibilities or compromising the quality of my work. Instead, it involved confronting my fears and recognizing that seeking control through work was not the solution.
A significant truth dawned on me — often, the things we fear relinquishing the most are precisely what we need to let go of to truly flourish. Grasping too tightly, even to our passions or careers, fosters a false sense of control while stifling the joy and spontaneity life has to offer. Work will always be there, but the irreplaceable moments with loved ones or opportunities to embrace new experiences are fleeting.
Letting go allows us to maintain perspective on what truly matters, without discarding what we love. It means prioritizing relationships outside of work, creating space for hobbies, and, most importantly, permitting ourselves to be human — embracing all the beautiful imperfections that come with it. In fact, it is often through accepting our flaws that we come alive, experiencing profound resilience, learning, and growth.
I still hold a passion for my job, but it no longer defines my entire being — it is now just one part of my life.
Reflecting on that text from my friend, I see it now as a catalyst for much more than just a change in weekend plans. I believe it was the universe nudging me to reassess and realign my life.
If you often find yourself in a relentless pursuit of the next goal, always pushing forward, I encourage you to pause. Reflect and understand that sometimes, the hardest work isn’t about the hours you dedicate to your job, but rather about the courage to confront your deepest fears and embrace your true self.
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