Embracing a Carefree Attitude: What I No Longer Worry About
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Chapter 1: A Shift in Perspective
In the words of Detective Roger Murtaugh from Lethal Weapon, “I’m too old for this sh*t!” This sentiment rings true for many of us as we navigate the complexities of life.
This post is a response to Leonora Watkins' article titled “I Really Don’t Care.” If you haven’t checked it out yet, I encourage you to do so—here’s the link! If you’re not already following her work, what are you waiting for?
Section 1.1: What I Truly Don’t Care About
There are numerous things that no longer occupy my thoughts:
Leonora’s observations resonate deeply with me, particularly regarding the eyebrow situation—mine are practically nonexistent! The 90s were a time of over-plucking for me.
Here’s a list of things I’ve decided to disregard for the sake of my well-being:
Hollywood Courtroom Dramas
Yes, I’m borrowing this from Leonora’s initial point. Let me elaborate: I was a teenager during the infamous O.J. Simpson trial, which dominated our household. My aunt was staying with us post-surgery, glued to the television. It felt like everyone knew he was guilty; the evidence was overwhelming. Yet, he was acquitted, likely due to fears of unrest in Los Angeles.
Fast forward to today—our news feeds are flooded with the Depp/Heard case, another spectacle involving privileged individuals displaying their personal turmoil for all to see. I manage my own laundry, thank you!
Do I like Johnny Depp? Sure! I enjoy his portrayal of Captain Jack and often quote him: “Why’s the rum gone?!” But do I sympathize with him? Not particularly. Reports suggest he was advised to end his relationship with Heard, yet he chose to marry her. He essentially made his own bed and now has to lie in it.
As for Amber… I’ll leave that alone.
The Need to Please Everyone
It’s simply not achievable.
If you disapprove of my choices or lifestyle? Tough luck! My life doesn’t revolve around your comfort.
This realization is why I’ve stopped hosting extravagant birthday parties for my kids. Regardless of how much I spent (often hundreds), there were always complaints.
For example, Roxy’s 4th birthday party had a Singing in the Rain theme, featuring a six-layer rainbow cake and a plethora of food options. I still received criticism.
The night before the celebration, while I was stressed and decorating the cake, I received a call from my mom questioning the menu.
“That’s it? Your dad won’t be able to eat any of that! It’s all too salty!” she exclaimed.
The lunch she brought him? A burrito from Del Taco—certainly not a low-sodium option.
A week later, I learned more complaints arose about the food, revealing how challenging it can be to meet everyone’s expectations.
People pleasing? Not my priority anymore.
Worrying About My Bikini Body
The body you see in that picture is far from what society labels a “beach body.” I’m about 30 pounds heavier now, but I still wear a two-piece.
Yes, I’m working on losing weight for health reasons, but I refuse to apologize if my swimwear choice makes someone uncomfortable. If you don’t like it, don’t look! My body isn’t for your judgment; I will enjoy the beach with my kids and embrace my imperfections.
How Others Live Their Lives
I must clarify: I don’t condone lifestyles that intentionally harm others. Life isn’t a free-for-all, and poor choices have consequences.
The Garrulous Glaswegian articulates this beautifully in her piece, “What the Superpower Question Says About You.”
She writes, “if there is such a thing as a sin, it’s the deliberate malevolent harming of another person.”
As long as you’re not intentionally hurting others, live your life as you see fit. Whether that means traveling the world, living off-grid, or raising a family, it’s your journey to embrace.
Chapter 2: Gratitude and Reflection
Inspiration often comes from surprising places. I want to express my gratitude to Leonora Watkins for sparking this reflection and reigniting my passion for writing!
If you're still hesitant to share your own experiences about what you no longer care about, I recommend reading Iva Ursano’s insightful article, The #1 Reason Why Most Shit in Life Doesn’t Matter.
Thank you for taking the time to read this! It’s been a while since I’ve shared my thoughts, and I truly appreciate your continued support. Remember, you are important and loved—never forget that! 💖