Section 1.1: Prioritizing Self-Care

The first step I advise is to take care of yourself holistically—physically, emotionally, mentally, socially, artistically, and spiritually. A relationship should be a platform for growth rather than a source of happiness. If I can’t find joy in my own company, I won’t be able to share true happiness with someone else.

To maintain physical health, I focus on nutrition, sleep, and regular exercise. These elements contribute to my overall well-being.

Emotionally, many men have been conditioned to rely on their partners for emotional support. However, it’s crucial to recognize that managing emotional health is our responsibility. Expressing feelings is a vital part of intimacy, and it requires courage. Learning to process emotions and know when to share them is essential, albeit challenging.

On the mental health front, seeking help when needed is imperative. Everyone should consider therapy to boost mental well-being. I found that discussing my life with a professional provided insights I never anticipated.

Social interaction is essential, even for introverts. We all need human connection, and this can be achieved through various activities or hobbies. Engaging in interests outside of a partnership is vital for maintaining one’s identity.

As for spirituality, I define it as the practice of serving others. I find peace through meditation, prayer, and reading. This practice helps me relinquish the need for control during uncertain times.

Ultimately, the focus should be on self-improvement. By prioritizing my own growth, I can contribute positively to any relationship.

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Section 1.2: Defining My Relationship Goals

I created a dating plan that outlines qualities I seek in a partner, such as emotional openness and financial independence. This list also reflects the standards I hold for myself.

While physical attraction is important, I’ve learned that true compatibility—about 80% of what matters—comes from shared values and interests. It's crucial to build a friendship first and explore deeper connections over time.

Many of us have rushed into physical intimacy, only to regret it later. I now prefer to wait until at least three dates before engaging physically. Understanding each other’s sense of humor, life goals, and preferences is essential for long-term compatibility.

As I date, I’ve become more aware of my boundaries and how I wish to be treated. Recognizing how someone interacts with me takes only a few dates.

By shifting from a mindset of “lack” to one of “abundance,” I’ve realized that self-acceptance is key. It’s essential to be true to myself and recognize that if someone isn’t interested, it’s perfectly okay to move on.

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