Chapter 1: The State of Contentment

At this moment, I find myself in a place of contentment. This isn't an attempt to boast or lament; rather, it's a moment for introspection. I recognize the privileges my family enjoys, and this reflection is not about declaring hardships. Instead, it stems from a desire to keep evolving, a sentiment many might share.

Over the last few years, I've gained self-confidence, secured my ideal job with a good salary, married my soulmate, and we even have an adorable dog (you can follow her on IG, @shasta.themountaindoodle). Yet, this comfortable state has left me frustratingly unmotivated.

To explore this lack of drive, I've started contemplating Maslow's hierarchy of needs. While I have a basic understanding of it from past education, I've often referenced it without truly grasping its depth.

As I reflect, I wonder if my current stagnation signifies that I've reached self-actualization. If that’s the case, is it truly worthwhile? Previously, external factors fueled my motivation, but now it seems to hinge solely on my own initiative.

Or perhaps I haven't yet fulfilled all my foundational needs according to Maslow's framework. Have I genuinely met the lower levels of his hierarchy?

Physiological: My basic needs are consistently satisfied, thanks to the federal government, the EPA, my parents, and our financial situation.

Safety: Despite residing in the infamous crime-ridden San Francisco, I feel secure for myself and my family. Once again, I am grateful for that.

Love and Belonging: I am blessed to have a strong network of friends and loved ones, both near and far. I have clarity about my spiritual beliefs and a solid relationship with my wife. I feel loved and know where I belong.

Esteem: Recently, I’ve discovered newfound confidence in my identity. While I may not be the most attractive or affluent, I cherish my unique perspective. This self-acceptance has grown significantly since turning 29.

So, does this place me at the pinnacle of self-actualization? I had envisioned self-actualization as a kind of paradise filled with continuous clarity. However, my intuition suggests that I’ve fulfilled the initial tiers that rely on external motivation.

I require basic needs: food and shelter. I instinctively seek safety. Emotionally, I yearn for love and belonging. And, socially, I desire a good reputation. Yet, self-actualization demands something deeper—an internal drive, perhaps a purpose or aspiration that fuels further ambitions.

I suspect I am not in self-actualization but rather at a precipice, struggling to bridge the gap between external and internal motivations. This final step in the hierarchy may represent a significant divide, separating those who merely exist from those who leave a lasting impact.

Here’s the reality: we often perceive ourselves as inherently driven individuals, aspiring to be the next Elon Musk, President, Mother Teresa, or Will Smith. In truth, many of us are influenced by external and cultural factors. How do we leap across that divide to cultivate internal motivation? What might be the outcome?

Thoughts on Bridging the Gap: From External to Internal Motivation

I wish I could articulate why the gap between external and internal motivation feels like a chasm; it simply resonates that way. I still hold on to my dreams, yet daily, procrastination looms larger.

It’s not that my aspirations have faded; rather, their urgency has diminished, and I long to reclaim that sense of urgency.

Aging—though I may only be 31—seems to be a gradual shift from striving for progress to merely maintaining what one has. Even retirement often equates to sustaining a desired lifestyle. This maintenance can stifle creativity and innovation. Historical revolutions typically arise from younger populations unwilling to accept the status quo, while older generations often prefer stability.

Currently, I find myself at odds with complacency. I believe the world can improve, and I refuse to settle for mere maintenance. I contend that our spiritual and evolutionary purpose as humans is progress. I aspire to contribute more than I take.

If this holds true, then self-actualization might serve as a rejuvenating force—restoring and amplifying my motivation. It could represent the key to unlocking my legacy.

But how do I traverse this gap? What steps should I take? My immediate plan is to delve into Maslow's work and deepen my understanding of human motivation.

The first video provides five practical strategies to motivate oneself to create content, offering valuable insights into overcoming creative blocks.

The second video explores techniques to find and maintain motivation, providing guidance on fostering a persistent drive for self-improvement and achievement.